"Kung baga, di kayo dalawang magkaibang magnet dahil siya yung magnet at ikaw yung naattract na turnilyo."
CRUSH.
Hindi na siguro mawawala sa buhay ng mga highschool students ang pagkakaroon ng crush. Lahat tayo, may crush na artista, athlete o kahit na sinong may itsura. Minsan nga, basta may appeal, crush na natin kahit na wala naman talagang mukha.
Pero bakit at papaano nga ba tayo nagkakacrush sa mga tao? Matanong nga si Pareng Google.
How Does A Crush Develop?
Admiring from Afar
- It could be the server behind the counter at your favorite cafe, a co-worker or just someone you fantasize about that appears on a popular TV show. Regardless of who it is, a crush generally starts as slight admiration. You may see someone you think is cute, has a great personality or has some aspect that draws that person to you. People usually develop crushes on others after their first or second encounter with the person. You have an innate sense that a person may be a good match for you. Once that becomes apparent, a crush begins to develop.
Getting a Closer Look
- After this initial stage of the crush, the "crusher, "the person who has the crush on someone, usually tries to spend as much time possible near the "crushee," the person being crushed on. This may mean acting like they have to do work every day at the coffeeshop where the crushee works, or trying to run into a co-worker at the fax machine, break room, etc. as much as possible. At this stage, the crusher is trying to be noticed by the crushee.
- Striking up a Conversation
- After you have tried to run into your crush as much as possible, you may try to strike up a conversation with your crush or make small talk or talk about something with a co-worker that they know he's interested in, such as a movie that just came out. At this stage, you're taking a chance and getting to know the crushee. This is about the time when the crusher engages in some harmless flirting and compliments the crushee.
Taking a Crush to the Next Level
If you've had luck chatting with the crushee, your crush on that person will more than likely become stronger. As you continue to come into contact with the crushee and get to know each other, there will come a point in time in which you will hint at going on a date with the crushee.
Kung binasa mo yung napakahabang copy-paste na'yon, walang duda. May crush ka. Interesado ka nga eh.
Sino ba si CRUSH sa buhay natin?
1. Vitamins- siya ang nagbibigay-gana saatin araw-araw. Yung tipong, ganadong-ganado ka magtrabaho dahil ang ganda ng mood mo gawa ng kinikilig ka kay crush. Parang Enervon lang.
2. Make-up- si crush ang nagsisilbi nating make-up. Isang ngiti niya lang siguradong mamumula ka na. Di na kailangan ng blush on o kung ano pa. Pero kakailanganin mo parin ng lipstick dahil baka dahil sa sobrang kilig eh, mamutla ka na.
3. Antidepressant- kapag malungkot ka, lapitan ka lang ni crush, parang nasa'yo nanaman lahat ng chakra sa mundo. Kung baga sa droga eh, stimulant. Madikitan kalang, mas hyper ka pa sa batang pumasay ng isang kilong asukal.
Hindi rin maiiwasan yung mga panahong, nasasaktan tayo dahil kay crush. Kapag nagseselos tayo sa gusto ng gusto natin. Eto lang yung mahirap eh. Masakit isipin na isang side lang yung naaattract. One-sided. Kung baga, di kayo dalawang magkaibang magnet dahil siya yung magnet at ikaw yung naattract na turnilyo. Pero hindi dapat tayo magalit kung ayaw satin ng gusto natin. Dahil meron ring gusto tayo na di naman natin gusto. Quits lang, sabi nga ni Bob Ong.
Totoo ngang nagsisimula ang crush sa simpleng pagappreciate sa positive traits ng isang tao. Admiration nga, kung baga. Nagsisimula ang pagkagusto natin sa isang tao, sa oras na may makita tayong maganda sakanya. At kadalasan, nababase ito sa panlabas na itsura.
At dahil nga masyadong mababaw ang dahilan ng attraction natin sakanila, madali rin itong nawawala. Kapagka may nakikita tayong mas "maappeal", gwapo o maganda, ang dali para saating ipagpalit sila. Kasi nga, namili tayo ng base sa ganda.
Ang crush, madaling nawawala, kaya hindi dapat pinoproblema. Chill lang. Gawin siyang inspirasyon, hindi distraksyon. Saka niyo na sila problemahin kapagka sigurado na kayong mahal niyo sila. Di yung crush ha. MAHAL. Napakalaki ng pagkakaiba. Kung baga sa pag-ibig, parang nagsuswimming ka sa malalim na dagat. Sa pagka-crush, para ka lang nagsuswimming sa baldeng mababaw.
Kaya kung masyado ka nang apektado sa pinaggagagawa ni CRUSH, aba eh, magdalawang isip ka na. Tandaan mong hindi si crush ang buhay mo. Maraming taong nakapaligid at tunay na nagmamahal sa'yo. Sila ang mga dapat na pahalagahan mo ;)